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Gimme! Gimme! Gimme!

Special Guest: Betsy Brown Braun, best-selling author, child development and behavior specialist, parent educator, multiple birth parenting consultant and the founder of Parenting Pathways.

Description: Do you want to raise your child to have more gratitude than "gimme"? Betsy Brown Braun, of Parenting Pathways, addresses the cures for our children’s spoilage and suggests ways to cultivate the values we believe to be the most important.

Duration: 39:52

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Show Index:
00:29 Intro: Gratitude or Gimme?
02:04 Are Gimmes Normal?
06:34 Enabling "Spoilage"
08:27 Value of "Longing"
10:37 Helping a Spoiled Brat
21:58 About Betsy Brown Braun
23:25 Listener: Giving Presents
30:20 Listener: Army Brats
37:06 Closing Comments
38:15 Closing Track: Tighten Up

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About Betsy Brown Braun

Betsy Brown Braun, best selling author of the award winning book Just Tell Me What to Say: Sensible Tips and Scripts for Perplexed Parents and You’re Not The Boss Of Me: Brat Proofing Your Kids, is a child development and behavior specialist, parent educator, multiple birth parenting consultant, and founder of Parenting Pathways, Inc.

With over 35 years of experience in public and private early childhood and elementary education, Betsy has directed and founded school programs, taught in both public and private schools, has been a school director, and was the founding director of Wilshire Boulevard Temple’s Early Childhood Center. She holds an MA in Human Development and teaching credentials from Pacific Oaks College.

In 2001 Betsy founded, Parenting Pathways, Inc. to provide guidance to parents seeking the skills and confidence needed to negotiate the often-challenging parenting pathway. She leads parenting groups, seminars, and offers private parent consultations throughout the nation. Betsy brings her vast knowledge, sensitivity, and special brand of humor to her parent consultations to her groups and her presentations.

Her bestseller, Just Tell Me What To Say, now in its 4th printing, presents the tried and true tools her clients use daily to handle situations that inevitably accompany raising children ages 2-6 and beyond. Her second book, You’re Not The Boss Of Me: Brat Proofing Your Kids, is the ultimate hands-on guide to cultivating character traits that are tried-and-true "bratbusters." It’s full of no-nonsense, practical "Tips and Scripts," that help you deal with challenging behaviors typical of four- to twelve-year-olds.

Her parenting expertise has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, U.S. News & World Report, Cookie, Family Circle, In Style, Parenting, Parents, Pregnancy and Newborn, Twins, and Woman’s Day, among other publications. She has shared her expertise on the Today Show multiple times. Other television appearances have included Good Morning America, Entertainment Tonight, KCBS, KNBC, and Fox News LA. She contributes to KNX news radio on child development, and has been a guest on countless radio programs nationwide, including NPR. She has been cited in numerous websites and parenting blogs. Betsy is a frequent speaker at educational conferences, schools, and businesses.

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Some of Betsy's Tips for Money-Talk

Don't confuse talking about money with lecturing about money. Your child will tune out your money sermons just as fast as you tuned out your father's. "What do you think I am made of? Money?" won't work for your child, either. 

Let your child sort money. The more familiarity your child has with real money, the more he will understand it. Let your child put your penny collection into paper rolls to take to the bank, be the banker in Monopoly, an count the change on your dresser or line it up according to size. It's all usefull experience.

Show how you make your choices. When in the grocery store, narrate why you are choosing to buy a particular brand or size item. Children can learn that the cereal with the toy costs more than the one without (and the toy is a piece of junk!). Organic food costs more because more effort went into producing it. The bigger size costs only a bit more but has way more product, or it has a lot more than you need and it's a waste.

Get more tips in the Gimme. Gimme. Gimme! chapter of You're Not the Boss of Me. There's more than 20 practical tips for implementing an allowance system too!

About the Book

What parent hasn't thought her child was a brat at one point or another? Whether your child really is a brat, is at risk of becoming one, or is simply trying to grow up in a world filled with temptations and distractions, you'll love this book!

It's the ultimate hands-on guide to cultivating character traits that are tried-and-true "bratbusters." Full of no-nonsense, practical "Tips and Scripts," You're Not the Boss of Me offers just the help you need to deal with many of the more challenging behaviors typical of four- to twelve-year-olds.

With Betsy Brown Braun's humorous, supportive, and authoritative voice as a guide, navigating some of the most exasperating aspects of these formative years with confidence and laying the groundwork for your child's future just got a whole lot easier!

It's All Here—What to Say and Do to Help Your Child:

Get Over the Gimmes
Tell the Truth
Be Self-Reliant
Develop Empathy
Show Gratitude
Be Respectful
Take Responsibility
Be Independent
Exercise Humor
Not Be Spoiled

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Some of Betsy's Tips for "Other-Orientation"

Considering others begins with allowing your child to be disappointed when a family decision doesn't go his way. This is the beginning of simply thinking of others. The happiness of the whole is more important than the happiness of just one.

Make thinking of and sharing with others a habit in your daily life. "Let's make an extra loaf of banana bread to bring to Mrs. Dallmeyer next door." "As long as we are going to the grocery store, let's see if Mrs. Grossman needs anything."

Show that grown-ups are helpful. Point out human interest stories of strangers helping people in need or even in trouble such as that article about woman who called 911 for someone in trouble and waited with her until help arrived.

Get more tips in the Gimme. Gimme. Gimme! chapter of You're Not the Boss of Me. There's also a chapter on growing an empathetic child.