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Kids Are Worth It!

Special Guest: Barbara Coloroso, bestselling author, internationally recognized speaker and consultant (for the past 38 years) on parenting, teaching, discipline, bullying, grieving, conflict resolution and more.

Description: Listen in for practical advice on how to use the everyday stuff in family life - chores, mealtime, bedtime and other routines - to create a home environment in which kids can become self-disciplined, responsible, resourceful, resilient human beings. Barbara Coloroso, author of Kids are Worth It, discusses her key points to good parenting.

Duration:
1:00:52

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Show Index:

00:24 Lucky You: Wear Clean Underwear
02:08 Intro: Kids Are Worth It!
03:09 Create a Positive Home Climate
04:08 Offer Choices to Kids
08:01 Three Types of Parents
11:52 Discipline versus Punishment
20:00 Effective TIME-OUT
22:25 Do You Say "I'm Sorry"?
25:10 Steps in the Discipline Process
31:18 About Barbara Coloroso
32:05 Bribes, Rewards and Threats
36:28 Do Good Because Good is Good to Do
38:50 Six Critical Life Messages
41:13 Fostering Strong Self-Esteem
46:18 Rewards at School
50:47 It Starts in Our Homes
55:48 Closing Comments

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About Barbara Coloroso

Barbara Coloroso is an international bestselling author and for the past 38 years an internationally recognized speaker and consultant on parenting, teaching, school discipline, positive school climate, bullying, grieving, nonviolent conflict resolution and restorative justice. She has appeared on Oprah, CBS, NBC, ABC, CNN and NPR and has been featured in the New York Times, Time, U.S. News & World Report, Newsweek, and other national and international publications.

Her uniquely effective parenting and teaching strategies were developed through her years of training in sociology, special education, and philosophy, as well as field-tested through her experiences as a classroom teacher, laboratory school instructor, university instructor, seminar leader, volunteer in Rwanda, and mother of three grown children.

She is the author of four international bestsellers: Kids are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline; Parenting Through Crisis—Helping Kids in Times of Loss, Grief and Change; The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander—From Pre-School to High School, How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence; and Just Because It’s Not Wrong Doesn’t Make It Right—From Toddlers to Teens, Teaching Kids to Think and Act Ethically. Barbara’s latest book is Extraordinary Evil: A Brief History of Genocide…and Why it Matters. She also has two critically acclaimed video programs Winning at Parenting...without beating your kids and Winning at Teaching...without beating your kids.


Quick Links

Kids Are Worth It

Barbara's Books, CDs, DVDs

Barbara's Handouts



Six Critical Life Messages


1. I believe in you.

2. I trust you.

3. I know you can handle it.

4. You are listened to.

5. You are cared for.

6. You are very important to me.



Helpful Resources

Ethics Handout
Just Because It's Not Wrong, Doesn't Make It Right


Bully Handout
The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander

Parenting and Teaching with Wit and Wisdom Handout
Raising children to be responsible, resourceful and caring individuals

Nurturing Parents Regularly Do 5 Things


1.
Acknowledge, own and label feelings.

2. Admit anger, or hurt, or fear, and then do something responsible and purposeful to address those feelings.

3. Make assertive statements.

4.
Acknowledge that children’s feelings are real and legitimate without passing judgment on those feelings.

5. Teach children to handle their own feelings assertively.




About Kids Are Worth It!


This bestselling guide rejects "quick-fix" solutions and focuses on helping kids develop their own self-discipline by owning up to their mistakes, thinking through solutions, and correcting their misdeeds while leaving their dignity intact. Barbara Coloroso shows these principles in action through dozens of examples -- from sibling rivalry to teenage rebellion; from common misbehaviors to substance abuse and antisocial behavior. She also explains how to parent strong-willed children, effective alternatives to time-outs, bribes, and threats, and how to help kids resolve disputes and serious injustices such as bullying.

Filled with practical suggestions for handling the ordinary and extraordinary tribulations of growing up, kids are worth it! helps you help your children grow into responsible, resilient, resourceful adults -- not because you tell them to, but because they want to. Get it on Amazon.



Three Alternatives to "No"

1. Yes, later

2. Give me a minute

3. Convince me



Discipline versus Punishment

Punishment is . . .
• adult-oriented
• requires judgement
• imposes power from without
• arouses anger and resentment
• invites more conflict
• exacerbates wounds rather than heals them
• is preoccupied with blame and pain
• does not consider reasons or look for solutions
• does something to a child
• involves a strong element of judgment
• demonstrates a parent’s ability to control a child


Discipline is . . .
• shows children what they have done wrong
• gives them ownership of the problem
• gives them ways to solve the problems they have created
• leaves their dignity intact
• not judgmental, arbitrary, confusing or coercive
• a process that gives life to a child’s learning
• restorative and invites reconciliation
• to instruct, teach, guide, and help children develop self-discipline

For mistakes, mischief, or mayhem that intentionally or unintentionally create serious problems of great consequence, the Three R’s - restitution, resolution, and reconciliation - are incorporated into the four steps of discipline.



"Do good because good is good to do." - James Nachwey