John Rosemond is a family psychologist & author
of ten best-selling parenting books. His syndicate
column appears weekly in more than 225 American
newspapers. He is also the executive director of
the Center for Affirmative Parenting in Gastonia,
North Carolina. His credentials include a 38 year
marriage, two happily married children, and six
For more information about John, visit his website
by John Rosemond
Renowned and respected family psychologist, John Rosemond blames child-centered parenting books from recent decades for creating a generation of dependent, often defiant children. He sets the record straight in
, an updated version of his highly successful book published more than fifteen years ago.
Booms in technology and mass media have created significant changes in society in the last two decades. The text in this revised book has been thoroughly updated to reflect today’s society, yet the foundation of Rosemond’s timeless and effective approach remains constant. He encourages families to return to tried-and-true, fundamental parenting methods that people did naturally before the arrival of the “new science of parenting”
• Parents aren’t their children’s friends; they are their leaders.
• Parents are at the center of the family - not kids.
• Your marriage must come before your children.
Each chapter of the includes easy-to-relate-to questions from parents, which Rosemond answers with both common sense and a sense of humor. For families feeling overwhelmed by competing advice about parenting, this book will ground them with logical, proven approaches to the most significant challenges parents face today. Covering issues from self-esteem and discipline to television and chores, this straightforward guide will facilitate a return to parent-centered families where children are raised into responsible adults.
About the Book
This completely revised and updated edition of the parenting classic urges contemporary parents to follow six fundamental points for raising happy, healthy children:
Point 1: The secret to raising a happy, successful child is to give more attention to your marriage than you give to your child.
Point 2: The clue to proper parenting is to be both authoritatively loving and lovingly authoritative. In the real world, there is not possibility of a truly democratic relationship between parents and children - not as long as the children live at home and rely on parents for emotional, social, and economic protections.
Point 3: Our job as parents is to socialize our children. In order for children to become successful at the three R’s of reading, ‘riting, and ‘rithmetic, their parents must first teach them the three R’s of respect, responsibility, and resourcefulness.
Point 4: Frustration isn’t necessarily bad for children. In fact, a certain amount is absolutely essential to healthy character formation and emotional growth.
Point 5: Children need forms of play and exercise that require imagination, initiative, creativity, intelligence, resourcefulness, and self-reliance. Making do is not only the essence of truly creative play - which is itself the essence of childhood - it’s also the story of the advancement of the human race.
Point 6: Television, computers, and video games are constantly blinking, tasteless, odor-free counterfeits of the real world. Too much of their use encumbers children’s development and is unhealthy for the family as a unit, so parents need to start early and limit their children’s exposure.